In retrospect, I wish I would’ve spent more time studying God’s Word.
In retrospect, I wish I would’ve prayed more and worried less.
In retrospect, I wish I would’ve been a good friend rather than trying to find one.
In retrospect, I wish I would’ve eaten more veggies and less burgers.
In retrospect, I wish I would’ve resisted hitting the snooze button so often.
In retrospect, I wish I would’ve listened more and talked less.
In retrospect, I wish I gave more grace and less judgement.
In retrospect, I wish I looked after other’s interests more than my own.
In retrospect, I wish I would’ve taken more risks than always playing it safe.
In retrospect. What is you’re list? What is your “in retrospect”?
The book of Ecclesiastes is Solomon’s “in retrospect.” It’s a man at the end of his life writing his
book in retrospect. In it, there is both regret and hope. Realism and faith.
“He has made everything beautiful in its time. Also, He has put eternity in their hearts, except that no one can find out the work that God does from beginning to end.” Ecclesiastes 3:11
Live your life knowing that at some point you will look back on it in retrospect.
We’ve all heard it said a million times. No one likes change. While that may not be entirely true, change does most certainly cause a large portion of the human population to tense up, freak out, or check out. The problem with taking a strong anti-change stance is that you are literally going against one of the big realities of life: change is a part of the deal, whether you like it or not. It’s not a matter of if things will change in your life, it is a matter of when they will change.
My grandmother has always said that life changes significantly about every 5 years. As a kid and teenager, I didn’t notice the wisdom and truth in her premise, but as a 35 year old adult I now see it very clearly. She’s pretty spot on!! My life significantly changes every 4-5 years.
Here’s a snapshot of the last couple of decades of my life. I spent around 4 years in middle school, then started High School. Big change for sure. I then spent 4 years in high school and my church youth group, and upon graduation, things changed again. I started college at University of Mobile, went on staff with a new church, and joined a touring group. New friends, new town, new church led to huge change.
5 years later I graduated from UM, married my bride, and moved to Atlanta, which was an enormous change. Around 4 years later, we moved to Pensacola to plant a church, and we had our first child. Change!! 5 years later we merged our church plant with Potential Church out of Miami and became multisite opening the door to a ton of change. This past summer, which was 4 years after that merger, I became the lead pastor of COTES and moved to the Eastern Shore. Yep, grandma nailed it!!
The truth is your life is going to change. You can fight and try to keep things the same, but you’ll fight a losing battle. Churches, organizations, and people who fight against change often do so to the detriment of their own futures. This doesn’t have to be our story. We can choose to handle change differently. We can actually embrace it.
I think change can be viewed like wind in the sails of a boat. The wind will effect the boat one way or the other. The captain can fight against it to no avail, or he can make a better choice. He can harness it. He can put the boat in a position to actually use the wind as energy to move it forward to a preferred destination.
You and I have the same choice available to us concerning change. Inevitable change can be harnessed to actually move your life forward. I believe God brings change into our lives for this very purpose. Ecclesiastes 3:1 makes clear that God designed our lives for seasons, and those seasons will change. Don’t be discouraged or intimidated by change. Welcome it, harness it, and embrace it. It can become wind in your sails.