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Honest Questions and Uncomfortable Answers

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Questions are powerful.  The right question can lead to the right answers.  As busy people living busy lives, we have a tendency to become insanely over busy.  It is into this insanity that I would like to offer a couple of powerful questions that hopefully will help us all get to the heart of our issues with busyness.  Now, as a warning, these are questions that will be hard for you to answer honestly, but I urge you to do so.

You see, unhealthy busyness isn’t just an exterior behavior to be managed or modified, but it is a symptom of deeper issues of the heart.  That’s the point of the questions……to bore down through the layers of your image, walls, and veneer.  It would seem that the fix to crazy busyness would be to pull yourself up by your bootstraps and change.  This, unfortunately, is just a band aid for what is often a gaping wound.   Human issues are rarely just skin deep.  We are deeply complex creatures with deeply complex problems and tendencies.  So, crank up the drill and start drilling.  Here are the questions.

First, who are you serving with your serving?  Are you truly serving people or God for His glory and their good?  Or, are you really ultimately looking for your own glory.  Before you blow this off, allow it to really sink in.  As broken people, we tend to dress up our hidden narcissism with selflessness.  We are masters at making caring about what people think about us look like we are really caring for them.

Secondly, are you doing good or trying to look good?  Yeah, I know, it’s painful….very painful.  I know how you feel.  You see, I’m pretty good at doing things that look outwardly like they are for God’s glory and people’s good, but they are ultimately for my glory and for my good.  I’m broken just like you.  I’m not who I used to be….but I’m also not who I’m going to be!!  I, like you, am a work in progress.

Here’s the deal.  If you will allow these penetrating questions to shine light into the jagged crevices of your heart, the healing process can begin.  If you live in denial, it will just get worse.  If you are super busy because you’re trying to prove yourself and have a good looking outward image, you will walk this demanding trail to a potentially destructive end.  It will wear you out and leave you insecure and empty.  You will use people for your own good under the disguise of doing what’s best for them.  It’s an issue of WHY instead of WHAT.  It’s not just the things you’re doing, but it is the reason you are doing them in the first place.  So, why are you so busy?  What are you trying to prove?

The only answer to this issue is the Gospel of Jesus Christ.  He called us to “come to Him and find rest.”  We must rest in the finished work of Jesus.  The only way we can serve God for His glory and people for their good is to be complete and secure in Jesus.  It is in and through Him that I find that I have nothing left to prove.  My identity is nailed down in Jesus.  It is a daily process of doing what we do underneath the shadow of the cross.  It is in that shadow that the purest light can actually begin to shine out from our lives.

Hopefully these questions will lead you to where they’ve led me…….to a statement.  I do what I do because of my identity in Jesus, not to find it.  This has set me free.  I hope it will for you.

 

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Busy Body

busybody-frontpagebanner“I’m busy.”   Yep, that’s my most used phrase when I’m asked how I’m doing at any given time.  I have different forms of the phrase too….like “I’m SO busy” or “crazy busy,” but the truth is often I’m simply TOO BUSY.

Maybe that’s you as well.  My hunch is most of us are living life like hamsters running on wheels.  We’re expending lot’s of energy and time, but we’re not really going anywhere.  While it can be funny and cute to watch our furry little friends play in a pet store, it’s not so funny when it’s an accurate description of our lives.

In the New Testament book of Ephesians, the Apostle Paul gives us a group of verses that have helped me harness the busyness in my life and I hope they will for you.

15 See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools but as wise, 16 redeeming the time, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be unwise, but understand what the will of the Lord is. Ephesians 5:15-17 NKJV

 

First, Paul warns us that we need to be careful how we live our lives.  Unfortunately, many of us are living life without much care at all.  We add to our already over-packed schedules with little thought.  We allow life to simply happen to us rather than harnessing it’s vast potential and opportunity.  Life is fragile…we must handle it with care.

He then calls us to a life of wisdom.  Now, there is difference between intelligence and wisdom.  I know lots of smart people who aren’t exactly wise.  If someone claims to be wise take a look at their decisions.  Wisdom leads to good decisions.  Paul raises the bar on how we live and make decisions.  We must be wise because it will lead us to carefully develop margin in our lives rather than packing them so tight we can’t breathe.

Finally, the Apostle teaches us to “redeem” our time and do God’s will.  This is the opposite of carelessly burning our time like a trash pile in a field.  Our time is limited and none of us know just how much we have.  Every minute we live is an opportunity given to us by our Creator.  The sobering truth about time is that it has a no refund policy.  You can’t redo your life.  Once time is gone, it’s gone forever.  This is why God lovingly through the pages of scripture and the pen of Paul speaks to us with this reminder.  Use your time wisely.

Truthfully, I struggle with this issue of unhealthy busyness.  I’m a busy guy leading a fast growing multi campus church, preaching 6 times a week, and most importantly being husband and daddy to an amazing family.  I…..am……busy.  But, I don’t have to choose to be a busy body.  I don’t have to be unwise and foolish.  God’s called me to stop trying to do everything so I can do SOME things well.

I have a few crucial things I’m called to accomplish in my life, and with God’s help I want to see it happen.  What about you?  Are you just TOO BUSY?  Do you have any margin in your life?  Read these words in Ephesians and know that God has a plan for your life.  Ask Him to show you.  When you know the things He wants you to major on, the other stuff will end up where it should be…..in the minors.  If you’ll stop trying to do everything, you can do just about anything.

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